We live in a world of disposable, well, everything. If it’s gross, disgusting, unpleasant, bothersome, infringing on our happiness, irritating, or even angering, it can be easily thrown out and replaced instead of working on the issue to mend it. After all, isn’t easier to start over than it is to repair something broken? I mean, with the fresh and the new there is a new start, a beginning that has the promise of wonderful things to come, a way to become something that isn’t constricted by the old. For some things, the new truly is better. Toilet paper, for example, has had its usefulness spent after a one time use and should be disposed of else the members of the family will be sick. Most of the time wrapping paper is the same way. Ruined after one use and beyond repair to use again. Some things in life should just remain disposable. However, I think in turning into a disposable society, we have forgotten the value of what is old, tried and true, cherished and loved.
I have held the locket that belonged to my great great grandmother. Within that locket are pictures dear and treasured. Once she was gone, I suppose that someone could have thrown it away, gotten rid of it and the memories it symbolized, but I am so glad they didn’t. It’s my link to her from somewhere in the past. It’s a clue as to who she is and what was important to her in her life.
But it’s not just the stuff that we seem to think is disposable. If a relationship doesn’t work, we throw it out. This is seen in the divorce rate in our society alone. My thoughts are something completely different. Call it old fashioned, call it backwater hicksville thinking if you will, but it’s tried and true, and it works. If it’s broke, fix it. Spend time working on it until it’s better. Yes, I do understand that there are sometimes when it is safest for all involved to walk away, but that’s not every time. In fact, the odds are that the people who are calling it quits are already looking for the new, polished, and shiny relationship because they don’t want to work on what’s broken with the relationship they have. Well, nothing that is worth keeping happens without work. A great garden will grow only when it is tended to. A great relationship will only flourish with the same attention.
I believe that this same attitude is permeating our society. Nothing is worth keeping any more. Everything is subject to discard. I think that this is part of the greater issues that are hurting our American culture. What do you think?